J- Means

...Jerk. J-'s ended up being a jerk.

I let him into my life. I trusted him. I gave him keys. I lent him money. I lent him money. I paid for things. I lent him money.

The fucker still owes me money.

We broke up officially a month ago tomorrow. He's owed me £327 since Feb. You've no idea the stories I've heard about why I don't have this yet. Allow me to tell you some of it.

First, back in February I asked if he could pay me just a £100 back so I wouldn't go into overdraft. He volunteered paying me back the entire thing. I didn't need the entire thing only a £100 of it, but he insisted. He called his bank and wire transferred money into my account....supposedly. The money never showed. He offered to put an extra £100 in to my bank by going to one of my bank's branches to cover me until the first wire transfer came through. That also never showed up. My bank charged me a £30 fee as I went over-limit from waiting for these transfers. Then by some miracle, Jerk was able to get the money back from these transfers gone awry. Then, my cancer scare occurred and we split. Meanwhile he still owed me money.

We made an agreement that he would send me a cheque and the documents to prove that he had made the original transfers as well as my keys. With these documents, I might be able to get the bank to reverse the fee. I got the cheque and the keys but no documents. He said he had simply forgotten them and would send them via regular post.

Then the cheque bounced....boing! Oh and in the midst of emails trying to sort that out, he claimed he didn't fancy talking to me on the phone about this since it was all a bit painful for him and hearing my voice would make it worse.

Whatever... However, I did burst into tears when I read that. But I collected myself and responded that it was painful for me as well and all this unresolved money crap made it worse.

And now I'm awaiting a banker's draft with the money and the documents. He claims he has said it via recorded post to my work on Thursday. So here, read the email I sent to him Tuesday to explain the rest of this bullshit.

"Jerk, (okay I used his name here)

I'm on spring recess and I've called school yesterday and today to check if there has been any post for me. There hasn't been any recorded delivery. The last time you sent the cheque (that bounced) it came within a day. If you sent it Thursday, as you said you did, it should have arrived by today as it has now been 3 business days.

You mentioned in a text on Saturday that you had already sent me the confirmation number for the recorded delivery via text, which I apparently never received. You said you would get your bother to send the number to you, as you were away. I never got any other text or correspondence from you. I sent you a text yesterday saying that if you had sent a text with the number, it would still be in your sent messages and you could just forward me that. I never received a response from you.

As far as I am concerned you have not made any effort to send me the confirmation number since I have never received it. Thus, I am beginning to think that you have been dishonest with me about sending the recorded mail at all.

Considering that I always bent over backwards to help you out, I would think that you would try a little harder to make certain I had the money you owe me so this could be made right. Yet, you won't even resend the confirmation number (if you really sent it the first time). Do the right thing and give me the number so I can track the post. Or, admit you never sent the post originally and send it now (with the other bank documents as well so I can take care of that fee-if you were honest about the initial deposits) via recorded post and then email me the tracking number to both facebook and my regular email so there can be no claim of emails going astray.

H~"

Today I get a text from him saying that he hadn't read his email as he was still away (despite the fact I saw him on MSN all night and he had activity on Facebook) but would try to check his email at a cafe tonight. He said his brother was also still away so couldn't resend the confirmation number. (What his brother has to do with this, I have no idea.) I responded calling him out on the lie for checking his email and telling him that I'm getting tired of him messing me about. I've not heard back.

I seriously am starting to think that he's setting this up to say the recorded mail got lost, so he doesn't have to pay me at all.

By the end of the day tomorrow I will inform him that I intend on filing a claim against him. I don't want to have to do this, but I will.

Yup. J- stands for Jerk.